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The loss of one electron often turns an atom from negative to positive.
Five simple rules of happiness:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.
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5 Stages of Grief
1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance
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Depression is often Anger turned inward!
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Signs of Depression
Signs of Depression
Depression is usually defined as a type of mood disorder in which someone has any or all of the
following symptoms:
- strong sad feelings
- feelings of guilt
- helplessness
- anxiety
- worry
- fear
- lowered self-esteem
- a loss of interest in life
Depression is usually anger turned
inward
Some people who are depressed think about suicide.
Many people feel sad, discouraged, or "down" once in a while, but for some
people, this mood does not go away. When these problems last two weeks or more,
and are so persistent that they get in the way of daily living, this is possibly
an emotional depression or...
- These feelings could also be grief for losses that have not been grieved properly.
- Lost jobs- when you lose a job you lose many relationships!
- Lost pets
- Lost relationships
- Lost friends or family
- All losses need to be grieved effectively. In many cases grief can come in
waves of feeling overwhelmed and can be very frightening if you do not know
what to expect. It may be tempting to reach out for medications to stop the
normal ebb and flow of grief. Thinking of grief as a cycle like the tide cycle
will help you to be less afraid of it and accept it as healthy.
- The normal grief cycle can last for a long time, 5 years or more in many
cases.
- Personally, I still often feel very sad, even responsible, when I think
of my beautiful and loyal German Shepherd dog that I was forced to put down
over twenty years ago because her hips had gotten so bad she could only crawl
on her front legs.
- Crying (even for tough guys) is sometimes a good outlet and may seem to be
overly powerful but necessary if you have avoided a lifetime of grief by
"medicating" somehow with overworking, overeating, oversleeping, over being
depressed, overachieving, underachieving, sex, drugs or rock and roll. When
all of that stops working, and it always does, you will still have to deal
with the grief for the losses that you have experienced.
- If you feel responsible for the normal losses or have been involved in
relationships with addicted individuals who blamed their sorry existences on
you, the temptation to medicate will be increased and you may need help to see
your part in the situation accurately.
- If you actually are responsible for the losses then you will need to go
through some sort of self-forgiveness process.
- If you have cried too much you may need to start putting some action into
your grief somehow. Practicing forgiving others will allow you to start
forgiving yourself.
5 Stages of Grief
1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance
Some simple tips for alleviating the signs of depression temporarily.
- Stop eating sugar, you may have become intolerant to sugar.
- Make a list of the things you feel sad about and see how many of them are
actual losses or disappointments
- Talk to a trusted person about these losses or disappointments - one at a
time - so you do not get overwhelmed again. Sometimes the depression is simply
a feeling of being overwhelmed because you have a lot of perfectly healthy
feelings going on but they are confusing in a group.
- A Toastmaster rule for public speaking is that the audience can really
only comprehend three thoughts in one presentation, and that no one can juggle
more that 8 projects at a time.
- If you have more than 8 feelings fighting for your attention then it will
be overwhelming, the idea is to try to put them on paper so they will wait
till you can attend to them. The 'feeling' actually 'feels' acknowledged when
you do this, its crazy but it works!
- Take life in small chunks, like one hour at a time, or one day at a time.
- Use the "5 Minute Rule" Pick a small task that will only take 5 minutes
and do it. Then pick another small task that will only take 5 minutes and do
that. You will get a small feeling of accomplishment that may allow you to do
another small task. Try it it works.
- Find a support group, attend it and get out of the isolation. Often just
the act of reaching out will empower you enough to gain some confidence back.
- Stay off the sugar! Use something else to sweeten up your life, like buying
yourself a get well card or a stick of daisies ( like you would for any sick
friend ) or a bubbly water for a treat or a solace. Sugar
is a real depressant - same as alcohol - actually alcohol is made from sugar.
Go figure!
If you do these these simple steps your depression should ease
somewhat.
Remember: many anti depressants are Serotonin Inhibitors/Blockers.
- Serotonin is a self produced 'feel good' drug.
- If you are taking anti depressants they will not allow you to feel
particularly good because they block or impede the flow of serotonin.
- The theory behind 'serotonin blockers' is that if you do not get too "high"
(on life) you will not get the corresponding low that always follows a high.
If this is the case, or if you have been taking anti depressants for a long
period of time, ask your doctor if your medications are serotonin
blockers and what other options may be available.
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